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"Talk a good game", I believe I've said these exact words about various keyboard jockies. These guys study their seduction books well, but place them in the real world, and they freeze up, or are actually pulling the ugly women that I wouldn't give the time of day.

Another given on the internet is that the idiots speak louder and more often. You see this in the Community too. The more normal, healthy members and gurus are invariably more low-key and participate less, while the freaks and the marketers hocking useless magic-bullet products easily fill the available space with their noise.


Low key, that's me. If you've found my blog, then congratulations.

Many guys in the Community are searching for self-esteem

Sure it's about hooking up with hot chicks. But deeper down lots of guys in this scene are quite unconfident and looking for a way to feel good about themselves. Becoming a player and being able to sleep around is one way they think they can do that. This leads to two things: First, a lot of weird ideas can bypass a guy's critical thinking skills if they appeal to his need to be cool and worthy. Secondly, this longing for self-esteem directly fosters some of the Community's more arrogant, "We're enlightened and superior to all the AFC's"-type beliefs.


I'm not getting laid by any good looking women, but this guy is such an AFC. (average frustrated chump for those of you that are not cool enough to know my superior lingo)

A vicious circle keeps the weirdness going by driving away more normal people

When more socially adjusted, level-headed people discover the Community many of them are driven away quite quickly. Some are put off as soon as they read some of the stranger advice. Others are gone when they hit the forums. The next batch survive those obstacles only to beat a hasty retreat upon hanging out with some Community guys in real life. Things are almost to the point where a guy has to be at least a little weird to want to stick around. With the normalizing influence of regular people largely absent, the remaining ones are left over to become even more weird together.

A second vicious circle keeps the weirdness going because the guys who improve often leave